Sometimes it just worth the fight

So this week has been a pretty stressful one for me... thank god that the stress that I have been feeling has nothing to do with Andy and I. But for some reason we took this opportunity to discuss some things we can do better in our relationship. Andy and I are entering 1 year of marriage in a few months.


We of course have had our ups and downs. But the great thing about Andy and I's relationship is that we take every disagreement and use it to make what we have stronger.


The dynamic of my husbands and I's relationship is as follows
- I like to yell! I want to be pissed, I want to scream, and then I want to move on
-Andy likes to walk away... he doesn't want to yell, he doesn't want to deal with confrontation.. he wants to leave and come back and act like it never happened.


- you can see where we butt heads!! = ]


So in our discussion on our porch...we talked about ways that I can handle stress better. We discussed how he needs to learn that I can't just drop an argument. Because whether he likes to think so or not = ] I am not getting upset to just get upset..there is a reason.


- overall I think that we made a lot of progress this week. I think it takes a strong person to admit their flaws... own up to their mistakes... and it takes an even stronger couple to come out of an argument even stronger then before.


My advice: I used to be the person who during an argument wanted nothing more than to be right. I thought that if I could hold out the longest that I would prove my point. That as long as I didn't give in I could show that I was the strongest. [But the truth is its not about who is stronger or who can hold out the longest...the only thing that matters is making it right.]


Remember: the best things in life are worth fighting for.